Friday 14 September 2018

Checking In

From time to time Meredith gently chides me for not posting in a while. The thing is, when I started blogging, after testing the waters as a guest on the blogs of two friends, I was already wondering what on Earth I was going to blog about. By then Harry and I had been on the ttwd path for three years. That doesn't mean we had it all down pat, we still haven't, but we had pretty much shaped the way we wanted our version to go. Pouting, flouncing and door slamming had all been consigned to history by that point, along with some other undesirable traits, so there is seldom anything of note to tell. Punishment doesn't figure in our dynamic, though there is discipline in the shape of 'reminders' and resets. There are no rules to be broken.

Or are there? When is, "I don't like you standing on a chair to get to get to the top shelves," the same as a rule? And what about, "Remember to take your phone with you when you leave the house."  How does that translate to, "You're in trouble," if I forget it? I guess the answer is that we have one golden rule, which encompasses anything and everything that Harry feels compromises my safety and he will always spank for that. 

Though I've vastly improved, I still slip up with the phone rule once in a while. Back in the summer, we were going to a fun 'do' at the invitation of one of our clients. At the last minute, Harry was called in to solve a problem at work and we had to travel separately. Our younger daughter was home on her yearly visit and was accompanying us to the event. Harry said he would call me when he was done to find out where to join us and I was to be sure to take my phone. As daughter and I walked into the the venue her phone rang. It was Harry; the problem had been resolved quickly and he was already there. We met up with him and he asked why I hadn't responded to his five calls. I opened my handbag, thinking I must have left the phone on silent after my gym session that morning. Sadly, I had left it on my bedside table. I looked aghast at Harry, remembering the spanking I got the last time I left it at home. You can imagine 'the look' he gave me. With our daughter there he could only say, "Don't say a word," but I was already envisaging another date with the jam spoon.

That was the last time I got into any real trouble and life has been pretty smooth since then. So smooth, in fact, that I recently asked Harry if I could give him some feedback on spanking. As I wrote in a post a while back, fun spankings are lovely but I crave discipline to remain on an even keel. Harry was still giving reminder spankings but, as I explained to him, there was so much rubbing, squeezing and stroking that the purpose of the spanking got lost and there was no after effect to remind me I had been spanked. He took that on board and reminders are now back to more business, less fun. He has also reverted to giving me 'appointments' for reminders. I love the anticipation after receiving his texts:

This morning, Harry was up and dressed ready to run an errand while I was still lounging in bed. I heard him shut the window and looked up to see that he had two paddles in his hand. I'm writing this with a hot bottom. Happy Weekend!



  1. What a lovely post! The line between fun and discipline is easy for them to blur but I really like two separate things myself.

  2. Hey, there, hot bottom! LOL! Your writing is simply lovely. I almost feel as if I should have a cup of tea this morning, but I will stick with the coffee. I do like what you said about needing the discipline kind of spanking to keep you level. I feel the same way. It is so weird (and possibly dangerous) the few times we have forgotten our phones at home! I am glad you posted, Rosie! Hugs! Windy

  3. Hi Rosie,

    I enjoyed reading your update. I agree too on fun v punishment. I love your appointments! Nothing like the anticipation:)


  4. Rosie,
    And this is just why I gently push for more, Rosie. This is an excellent post of the way you and Harry are making your way. We love to hear from you here. Yikes...... two paddles and you will have all the reminding a bottom can possibly handle.

    I, too, worry when Jack closes the windows. It is a foreshadow of what is coming.

  5. Hi Rosie, nice post, have a lovely weekend and see you next week
    love Jan, xx

  6. Love your appointment and enjoyed reading this. Lovely post. Did he use both paddles?


  7. I love those texts putting the anticipation in place. It’s nice to hear things are rolling along smoothly for you both but you’re right, blurring the lines is not always what we need. Have a wonderful weekend with your guy.

  8. What a great way to start the weekend, Rosie! I'm with Meredith. Keep those posts coming. Even the once-in-awhile are fun for your fans. (Me!)

  9. Love when you check in!
    I agree with every word you said!
    These TTWD relationships are evolving and fluid!

  10. Wonderful post. Sounds like the start to a wonderful weekend.

  11. Love your posts, Rosie. I do understand the feeling that you don't have enough going on to blog about ... not that we are anywhere near figuring it all out but I've been struggling as well lately. Your journal snippets from a few weeks back were very fun to read. I think everyone agrees ... more Rosie, please! ... nj

  12. the best way to write...on a newly spanked bottom :-) Hugs

  13. Dear Friends,
    I am sorry to be so late responding to your comments. Please be assured that
    I appreciate your input, which often adds a new layer to the topic at hand. I have had an exceptionally busy couple of weeks, the only respite being a wonderful break in London with Jan, Ronnie, Ami and Katie t, our very special visitor from the other side of the Pond.
    I'm going to reply to your comments en bloc and hope you won't mind.

    PK - Blurred lines are confusing. I like to get into the right head space.
    Windy - I like to start the morning with a cup of tea but can't function before I've had two cups of coffee.
    Roz - I'm glad you liked the update. I love the appointments too.
    Mere - Thanks for the nudge! Hearing the window being closed is always a bad sign.
    Jan - It was so good to see you. We had fun, didn't we?
    Ronnie - Yes, Harry used both paddles. I knew I'd been spanked! It was good to hang out with you too.
    Laurel - The lines have become sharper here. We had a good weekend, thanks.
    Amy - I always mean to post more often but, you know, life!
    Minelle - So good to see you back in Blogland, you've had a rough time.
    Leigh - That weekend went very well, thanks!
    NJ - I only have a couple of snippets in my notebook, so I'll save them till I have a few more. Glad you liked them!
    Terps - I agree, sitting on a newly spanked bottom is a great way to write!

    Love to you all, Rosie xx

  14. Rosie,
    It was so wonderful to visit with you, my friend! And it has been a long time since I have read a post from anyone. I am trying to crawl back to blogland slowly. First a fabulous vacation and then a house disaster, but I am just managing to keep my head above the water.

    I loved your post, too. When things stay quiet on the spanking front, it is easy to be lulled into a complacency that makes us forget what is important. Adore Harry's texts! The anticipation is delicious.

    So Glad I Got a Hug On Your Side of the Pond!
    Love from Ella

    1. Good to see you back in blogland, Ella. I'm glad you got your dream holiday this time. I enjoyed our lunch with Ronnie and Ami, there was a lot of laughter and many hugs! It was fun to meet Sam and Dan too.
      Rosie xx