Tuesday 5 July 2016

If it's Sunday it must be...

Meredith, over at New Twist, recently came across an article that had the answer for those long-married couples who were lacking in love making and affection. The solution was to make a love appointment for Wednesdays - humping on Hump Day. Meredith had a better idea; they should try ttwd instead. I entirely agree with her that being spanked by your husband sets the world of love making on fire. Only recently, Harry commented that we were having some of the best sex of our lives. The sexy benefits of ttwd are undisputed.

I can't knock 'calendar sex', though. I've been there, when life got in the way of intimacy. There was a time, a few years back, when Harry and I were both working long hours in demanding jobs and seemed permanently tired and stressed. There was no shortage of affection between us; we still kissed and cuddled, I still fell asleep each night with his right shoulder as my pillow but, too often, love making fell victim to exhaustion.

One Sunday morning, we were sitting up in bed watching the TV news. Harry had an arm around me, absently stroking my shoulder. As I snuggled into him, I realised we hadn't made love for nearly two months. We knew it had been a while but we were shocked it had been that long. After we'd brought that particular drought to an end, I asked what Harry thought of setting aside a particular time for making love, so that it didn't get lost in the chaos of life. He wasn't keen on the idea, thinking that losing spontaneity would make it feel forced or clinical. After another month in the desert we decided to try it, choosing Sunday afternoons, as that was the quietest time of the week. We didn't physically mark it on the calendar, of course, nor did we set a specific time. The next Sunday afternoon, I dressed provocatively, put on my highest heels and sashayed into the sitting room, beckoning Harry to follow me upstairs. Needless to say, he loved that.




Harry's misgivings proved unfounded. Far from feeling forced or clinical, it gave us something to look forward to. The anticipation was a great build up - if it was Sunday there'd be good loving in the afternoon. We had a lot of fun. I particularly enjoyed "seducing" Harry, sometimes mixing it up by  sending him a saucy text or a naughty photo. I know! Sexting at my age, whatever next! 

Our first spanking took place on a Sunday afternoon, as did many that followed. By that time, our afternoon trysts had brought our love life back from the dead, restoring our lost libido and bringing back spontaneity. The introduction of ttwd also added a whole new dimension. There was no longer any need to put sex on the calendar.

Nevertheless, if you were to walk past our house on a Sunday afternoon, it's still likely that our bedroom curtains would be drawn. If the windows were closed too, that would be a sure sign of the MFL being preceded by a GBW (Good Bottom Warming). It may be scheduled but, to me, that's still pretty hot. I'm sure it's not for everyone but we have no plans to take our Sunday afternoon love appointments off the calendar any time soon.



Thanks, M.


Rosie  

14 comments:

  1. AW, nice. For us it's generally a morning appointment! and now we are retired there are more of those appointments then ever
    love Jan, xx

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    1. We used to like mornings too but our alarm goes off at 5.50am six days a week nowadays, so that's not feasible any more. I'd love to retire but Harry's not ready yet. He's promised to cut down to four days a week, so that will be something.
      Rosie xx

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  2. I like this. One of Nick's complaints was that I don't imitate enough. He's right, I usual wait for him. So though we don't have 'rules' he made one saying that I'm in charge of 'first weekend' the first weekend of the month I'm to think of some sexy fun for us. It might be catering to him in some way, it might be asking him to do something specific for me - but I initiate, and he seems to love what ever I come up with.

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    1. I used to find it difficult to initiate. Maybe it's because women of our age were brought up on the false premise that "nice girls don't." Nice girls do and our men love it when we show them they're desired too.
      Rosie xx

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  3. Sunday afternoons... How nice that would be. Typically the kids/grandkids are here then. Maybe I need to just kick them all out although that's kind of hard to do when one of them lives here. LOL I love hearing what works for folks, though. It makes me smile.

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    1. I remember those long gone days of taking my daughters to see their grandparents on Sunday afternoons. I wonder now whether they would have preferred less frequent visits! Harry and I have little chance of being disturbed during our Sunday 'appointments' as our daughters live far away from us.
      Thanks for stopping by Eva.
      Rosie xx

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  4. Rosie,
    That is the sweetest of post! I like both ways...... calendar and spanking! Love the GBW symbolism.
    Remember that there is always something to write about on a ttwd blog.
    Great post!
    Meredith

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    1. Meredith,
      Both ways work for us too. The calendar idea was only supposed to be an emergency measure to get us back on track but our Sunday afternoons were too good to give up!
      Rosie xx

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    1. Leigh, that's a really good motto.
      Rosie xx

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  6. Master and I figured out a while ago....scheduling just makes sure it will happen! We schedule weekly maintenance and some time MFL time...the anticipation is wonderful and the fact that we both make it a priority shows how important we both feel it is. Good for you!
    hugs abby

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    1. Abby, you've hit the nail on the head. That's exactly how it worked for us too. We don't really need the calendar any more but we still look forward to our Sunday afternoons, no matter how much spontaneity may have occurred during the week!
      Rosie xx

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  7. Rosie,
    I like it both ways, too. Spontaneous and By Appointment. Just thinking of a GBW makes me smile all day.

    Loved this Post!
    Ella

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    1. Ella,
      Yes, there's definitely room for both ways. The thought of a GBW makes me smile too, especially when I know one's coming up.
      Rosie xx

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